Learn how to say “I love you” in cat language

Ever noticed your cat staring at you before giving you a long slow blink? The “cat slow blink” is more than just a cute quirk—it may be your cat’s way of saying “I love you.”

Why do cats slow blink?

Unlike a regular blink (a blink to help spread tears and lubricate the eyes), a slow blink happens only when our cats have clear eye contact with us. With normal-sized pupils, they slowly blink, often several times in a row.

Experts believe slow blinking is a form of non-verbal communication between cats and their humans. When cats slow blink, they signal relaxation, trust and affection. This behavior mimics what cats might do with each other to show they mean no harm. So, why do cats slow blink at you? It’s their version of a warm smile or hug!

What’s the meaning of the cat slow blink?

The cat slow blink’s meaning goes beyond trust. It’s a deep sign of emotional bonding. Cats are naturally on guard, so when they close their eyes in your presence—even momentarily—they’re showing vulnerability. This act is a huge gesture in cat terms, signaling safety and connection.

How to show affection to your cat

Want to return the love? Learning how to show affection to your cat is key to deepening your bond. Here are some tips:

Respect their boundaries:

Not every cat loves cuddles. Watch for other signs of affection, like head bunting or gentle nuzzles.

Play and interact:

Using toys or simply spending time together can communicate love.

Provide comfort:

A cozy bed, consistent routines and a stress-free environment can show them how much you care.

Do cats like staring contests?

Be aware that staring at your cat can be interpreted as confrontational, so be careful not to stare at them. They won’t give you the slow blink if they’re feeling at all intimidated or challenged.

Do all cats slow blink?

No, not all cats slow blink. If your cat doesn’t slow blink, don’t worry—it doesn’t mean they don’t love you or trust you! Cats express affection in other ways, too, such as rubbing against us, rolling onto their back to expose their belly, licking us and head bunting. These are all ways that cats show their love.

Understanding the cat slow blink is a heartwarming way to connect with your feline friend. Whether they blink back or show affection in other ways, the love between you and your cat is undeniable.

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